The notes

Checking

You checked his profile, his stories, who viewed yours. 2 notes.

September 2026

A wooden desk by a tall window in morning light, with a small vase of red tulips beside an open notebook and a pen. A cardigan hangs over the back of the chair.

Limerence, In Bar Language

One case study of limerence: one woman, nine months, far fewer rituals. What got measured, and what it can't tell you.

ReassuranceCheckingOverthinkingSeptember 30, 2026 · 5 min

Ruby sitting up in bed at night in a grey T-shirt, the duvet over her knees and her phone lying on it, looking at the camera

Anxious in love, named: the five things we keep doing

Rereading his texts, checking who saw your story, asking one more time, guessing, drafting. Each one named, the size of what got measured, and one small thing to do instead.

RereadingCheckingReassuranceOverthinkingSeptember 23, 2026 · 9 min