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Overthinking

You are guessing what he thinks, and what he meant by that. 3 notes.

September 2026

A wooden desk by a tall window in morning light, with a small vase of red tulips beside an open notebook and a pen. A cardigan hangs over the back of the chair.

Limerence, In Bar Language

One case study of limerence: one woman, nine months, far fewer rituals. What got measured, and what it can't tell you.

ReassuranceCheckingOverthinkingSeptember 30, 2026 · 5 min

Ruby sitting up in bed at night in a grey T-shirt, the duvet over her knees and her phone lying on it, looking at the camera

Anxious in love, named: the five things we keep doing

Rereading his texts, checking who saw your story, asking one more time, guessing, drafting. Each one named, the size of what got measured, and one small thing to do instead.

RereadingCheckingReassuranceOverthinkingSeptember 23, 2026 · 9 min

August 2026

A woman sitting on a dark bathroom floor with her back against the side of the tub, late at night

I Tried To Think My Way Out

I believed that if I ran the argument one more time it would finally resolve. Here is what that cost, and the small thing that changed it.

OverthinkingAugust 25, 2026 · 6 min